Misunderstandings and disagreements are part of marriage.
They are normal and are in fact, healthy!
According to David Klow, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as cited in the article How Much Fighting Is Too Much in a Relationship?, “Couples who are able to go through conflict into harmony end up having productive fights, which leads to greater intimacy.”
But then, if your fights are becoming more frequent and unresolved, you might want to reassess how you handle your conflicts.
In this Beyond Small Talk webisode, hosts Peter and Christine Kairuz, revealed the common causes of misunderstandings in marriage and how to solve them.
1. Lack of communication.
“When you talk of communication, there needs to be a listening part and a talking part,” says Peter.
Husbands, when your wife is talking to you, listen. This will show how you honor and respect her and her input.
On the other hand, wives, do not be critical when communicating with your husband. Give him a chance to explain his side in an argument as well.
As Philippians 2:4 ESV says, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
2. Lack of affirmation.
Christine revealed, “Wives get hurt when their husbands fail to appreciate them.”
Husbands, it does not take much to notice and appreciate the sacrifices your wife makes for you and your children.
If you have not, put down your phone and tell her, “I love you,” and “Thank you!” These simple words matter to her because it shows that she and her sacrifices are recognized by the person she loves.
As Proverbs 16:24 ESV says, “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”
3. Disciplining your children.
Although you are raised differently by your own parents, you both should be on the same page when setting rules and regulations for your children.
You need to carve out time to discuss and agree on how you will discipline them.
4. Spending without permission.
Nothing should be done in secret – even in spending.
Consult each other first before you spend. What you can do is to agree on a certain amount or set aside a budget for both of your needs and wants.
5. Failing to fulfill the husband/wife role.
If you want to know your role according to what the Word of God says, read the Keys to A Successful Marriage.
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