Fathers, Unlock Your Child’s Potential With these 5 Tips!

How do you support your child’s gifts and talents?

As a parent, you can inspire your kids to thrive in life!

Papuri! artist, father, and Beyond Small Talk guest Rommel Guevara shares 5 practical ways that can help you bring out your child’s best:

1. Be motivated by love

All parents want their children to succeed. However, pushing your kids to excel in areas that they are not genuinely interested in can do more harm than good.

Dr. Harold S. Koplewicz of Child Mind Institute says that pushing kids to do things they don’t like can lead to anxiety disorder or learning disability.

When you want to support your child’s best interest, it is always best to be motivated by love and consider their dreams, too.

2. Let them know that you support their dreams

Does your child know that you always got their back?

Through your words and actions, let your child know that you support their aspirations.

“When our daughter was born, we prayed to support her dreams. We do not want to pressure her into doing ministry work, just because her parents are in the ministry. We let her discover her passions as she grows up,” Rommel said.

3. Do not withhold discipline

Great parents are those who learn how to strike a balance between freedom and discipline.

You can give your child the freedom to choose their own path, but you are also called to guide them (Proverbs 22:6). Setting healthy boundaries is important.

Rommel shared, “We should support our children, but that doesn’t mean tolerating them when they are doing the wrong things. Love and support come with discipline.”

4. Support their talents and interests

Sometimes, you need to step out of your comfort zone to help your child explore their gifts and talents.

Encouraging them through words is great! But there are also times when you need to show your support by providing them with the tools, materials, and supplies that will further nurture their talents.

Simply put, your wallet will be involved – which leads to point number 5.

5. Provide financial support

To Rommel, moral support is wonderful, but it is better if parents can also support their children’s interests financially.

So, if the budget allows, do not hesitate to gift your child with the equipment and materials they need. After all, you are investing in the future of your loved one!

But what if the budget is limited?

Fathers, it is best to rely on your limitless God.

“Thankfully, God only entrusted our children to us. Our children’s real Father is in heaven,” Rommel said. “So, when it comes to the financial needs of our daughter, we ask God for provision. He will supply the needs of our children.”

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19 ESV)

Do you find these tips helpful in unlocking your child’s potential?

Let us know in the comments section below!

For more inspiring content, watch the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk this Saturday, June 11, 2022, at 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel! 

What is the Secret to a Stronger Marriage?

Some Filipino husbands have an amusing and endearing way of calling their wives Kumander. It suggests that the wife is the head of the household. They are “the boss.” They call the shots.

While the term seems like an innocent endearment, it somehow reflects how modern couples have adapted the culture’s practice and structure for marriage.

Yes, husbands and wives are partners in the marriage. However, it’s also important to know that God has established an order and roles within the relationship to make it stronger and successful.

The Bible uncovers “the secret” to a stronger marriage: Both of you should fulfill your role according to what the Word of God says.

Do you know your role as a husband or as a wife?

Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz and his wife, Christine, are here to help you discover your role in your marriage:

Husband’s role #1: Leader of the house

God has assigned the role of leadership in the home to the husband, just as Christ is the head of the church.

However, take note that, “Husbands are not dictators. They should not demand. They should not rule over their wives,” according to All About God in their article Role of Husband in the Bible.

As the head of the wife and of the household, Peter reminds that husbands have the responsibility to provide for the needs of the family and to protect your home. They are called to lead and influence the family with biblical values.

Wife’s role #1: Administrator

Running the household is not a walk in the park. Thankfully, God has equipped wives with gifts that can help them manage the home.

“All the talents, gifts, abilities, and disposition that were placed into me by the Lord helps me become a Godly and skillful administrator in the home,” Christine said.

Husband’s role #2: Lover and reassurer

Besides being a lover, you need to often reassure your wife that she is loved, valued, and secured. The husband’s love should mirror the love of God.

Wife’s role #2: Helper

From the Hebrew word Ezer in the Bible, helper means “helpmeet.” Ezer is a military word which means assistant to the commander. You are called to help and submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord (Ephesians 5:22 NKJV).

As Christine puts it, “God is our commander-in-chief. The husband is the commander, and the wife is the assistant to the commander.”

Husband’s role #3: Reflection of God’s sovereignty at home

The husbands should be the one to set the boundaries and rules at home. Setting dos and don’ts at home is part of leadership, and husbands must be firm in implementing them.

“The husband is like a judge. When it is sin, it is sin.  There’s no gray area. You should set rules at home, that’s part of leadership,” Peter said.

Wife’s role #3: Lover and companion

Another God-given role of the wife is to be her husband’s lover and companion. Wives are called to be always ready for their husband.

“The wife’s mindset should be: she’s there for her husband. As a wife, you should always be ready for what your husband needs,” Christine said.

Wife’s role #4: Reflection of God’s love and forgiveness.

As husbands reflect God’s sovereignty at home, wives are to reflect God’s love and forgiveness.

“I have to have a heart that’s so loving and forgiving. We need to teach that to our children. Show them that we know how to forgive,” Christine shared.

Husbands and wives, God designed marriage to be this way that you must work—not as enemies—but as a team united with Him to carry out what He has called you to do.

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:21-25 NIV)

Do you want more tips about marriage and relationships?

Watch Beyond Small Talk this Saturday, June 4, 2022, at 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel.

3 Thoughts to Ponder to Help You Find Peace Amid Grief

Have you ever received the news? Yes, the one that drastically changed your life that is about a loved one who suddenly passed away.

If this has happened to you, you are very much familiar with the tears and the extreme pain that followed immediately after. You might feel like that lingering feeling will remain with you forever.

Thankfully, it’s possible to find peace amid grief. Actress and Beyond Small Talk host Bettinna Carlos-Eduardo can attest to that after she suffered a miscarriage early this year.

If you are grieving, know that God’s comfort is always available for you. Here are 3 thoughts to ponder that can help you find peace when you are grieving the loss of a loved one:

1. God is sovereign

Have you ever asked God why He allowed your loved one to die?

You are not alone. People who grieve and mourn try to find answers and explanations on why their loved one was called home soon. The answer to those whys may be obvious now, or they may never be answered in this lifetime.

But whether those questions are answered or not, you can find peace in the truth that Jesus Christ is sovereign. He is in control of everything. So, take all your questions and pain to God in prayer. Ask Him to help you trust and embrace His divine purpose and plans.

“God is the Creator; He controls everything. He was the cause of that life, and He is all powerful to continue that life if it’s His will,” Bettina said. She also shared her realizations after undergoing the procedure, “When my fallopian tube was taken out, there was pain. But there was peace even with that pain. There was peace knowing that God knew what He was doing.”

2. God is good

The world will tell you that there’s no good in goodbyes and there’s no good in grief.

The Word of God tells otherwise. During your brokenness, God is near to you (Psalm 34:18). During your times of mourning, He calls you blessed and promises that you will be comforted (Matthew 5:4). In times of grief, God’s goodness is magnified—and because He is good, His plans for you are good, too.

To find peace amid your grief, Bettinna suggests that you submit to God’s will and choose to see God’s character: That He is a good, gracious, and loving Father.

“And as painful as it was, it was good. I received it as good because I know God is good. It’s really up to His will. If it’s His will to give it, He will. But if it’s not the will of God, whatever we do, it won’t happen. God is wise and God is good! He knows what’s best for us,” Bettinna said.

3. Appreciate what you still have

Dealing with grief is not some scientific problem that needs to be solved. It is a complex emotional journey and process you should not rush.

As you journey toward your healing, may you find comfort knowing that there are people, things, and many blessings that God has graciously given you throughout your life.

“What helped me during that time is to see what I have. You don’t want to let the pain blind you from seeing what you have. I know you lost someone, I lost someone too. But don’t let that loss make you lose sight of what you still have right now,” Bettina encouraged.

The Lord gives and the Lord takes away (Job 1:21). Whether He gives or takes, whether you grieve or rejoice—may you find peace in the truth that God’s grace is always sufficient for you.

“And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:9-10 NKJV)

Do you need uplifting prayers to help you cope with grief?

Contact the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 and we would love to pray for you. If you want to know how Jesus Christ can give you peace, visit this page and begin your steps to eternal peace today.

For more inspiring content, catch the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk this Saturday, May 28, 2022, at 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia’s Facebook page and YouTube channel.

Praying for a Child? If You are Considering Adoption, Here are 5 Tips for You

Not every woman becomes a mother the same way.

Actress Princess Punzalan, for instance, found joy when she took on the journey of becoming a mother through adoption.

If you are like her and you want to become a parent by adopting a child, the Beyond Small Talk guest shares tips and things you can consider before making that life-changing decision.

1. Pray

If you are longing for a child and considering that adoption is the best option to have one, entrust that dream to God.

Trust that He knows what’s best for you (Jeremiah 29:11) and believe that if adoption is part of His plans, He will give you wisdom and clarity.

“If you want to adopt, pray first. Not all people are called to adopt so ask God, is adoption really for you? Each child is unique. Talk about it as a couple; if you are single, pray and think thoroughly,” Princess suggests.

2. Ask yourself what you are willing to give up and how much you can give

Your readiness is the number 1 thing you must consider as you start the process of adoption, the Adoption Network says.

So decide what you really want and what you don’t. Know your limits and be sure how much you can give in terms of time, finances, and all other resources—bearing in mind that this is a lifelong decision.

3. Be honest with yourself

The process of adoption can be long, complicated, and even emotional. That is why you must be clear and honest with yourself as to why you would want to adopt.

“Most importantly, why do you want a child?” Princess asks.

To Princess, raising a child is not something to be taken lightly, “If you want a child just for your own selfish reasons like, you don’t want to grow old alone or you want someone to take care of you, or you find it cute to have a baby in your home—let’s think carefully about it.”

4. If you already have children, make sure to consider their feelings 

If you are considering adoption and you already have children, it is best to consider your children’s feelings, too.

Adoptive families take huge financial and emotional changes, that is why it is important to ensure that adoption is right for the whole family.

5. Ask for God’s guidance before making this important decision

The adoption journey is not easy, but like what many adoptive parents feel, it is also fulfilling.

So before you embark on this journey, pray. Pray that your heart will be sensitive to God’s leading and promptings. Ask for His divine guidance and acknowledge that you need His help every step of the way.

Whatever decisions He will reveal to your heart, you can rest assured that all of it is for your good and God’s glory.

“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” (Isaiah 30:21 NIV) 

Are you considering adoption?

Allow us to pray for you. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 and let’s present your concerns to God.

Join the online discussion and don’t miss the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk on April 30, 2022, at 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel!

Breadwinners! Here are 4 Tips to Help You Set Healthy Financial Boundaries and Save Money

You know that feeling.

If you are a breadwinner, you know what it feels like to give up personal wants or needs for the sake of your loved ones. You have felt that pressure to say “yes” to a family member asking for or borrowing money when in reality, you needed to say “no.”

Although it’s fulfilling to support your family financially, it is also extremely challenging for many. If you are among those who struggle to set financial boundaries and save money, continue reading. Beyond Small Talk is here to help you!

Entrepreneur, investor, and guest Marvin Germo shares 4 practical tips to set healthy financial boundaries and save money:

Tip #1: Budget your income

While the Pinoys are known for their generosity and love for their families, we are not much known for setting financial boundaries. In the Filipino culture, it’s just normal for the highest earner in the family—also known as the breadwinner, to support the whole household.

However, this habit could create unjust burden and unhealthy financial dependency.

So here’s an encouragement for you: setting financial boundaries does not make you a bad person. Marvin suggests that you budget your income wisely and be firm on how much you would allot for your personal needs, your savings, and the needs of others.

“We are not required to give all that we have then we’d end up borrowing money to buy food or being buried in debt during emergencies. Whatever is in your heart that you decide to give, that’s very amazing already!” he shared.

Tip #2: Identify your needs and wants

Separating what you need from what you want takes a whole lot of self-honesty, discipline, and patience, but it’s important in setting financial boundaries and saving money.

How do you know if an expense is a need or want?

It depends on how and why you use it, according to The Balance. Do you use your Internet connection because you work from home? That’s a need. Do you use it for playing games or browsing social media? Then it’s a want.

“If you really want to save money, remove your wants. I am not saying that you should not enjoy your earnings. What I am saying is, at this season of your life—if you think you need to fix your finances and the only way is to remove your wants—do it,” Marvin said.

Tip #3: Find extra sources of income

Do you feel like you’ve already removed all your wants, you don’t spend too much, yet you’re still short of money and there’s nothing left to save?

Marvin explains that sometimes, the issue is not how much you save. Saving money on a tight budget is possible, but if you’re running out of money all the time, consider finding an extra source of income.

“Use your extra time after your job to find another source of income. We’re sitting on one of the greatest times to be alive because there’s many opportunities that can be found on the Internet. Find something that you can do online where you can make money,” Marvin suggests.

Tip #4: Start dividing your accounts

When you have all your money in one place, it looks like a huge amount. But when you start dividing it into different accounts, each account seems small.

The trick to spending less and saving more is to make your money look small and avoid the feeling of being a “one day millionaire.”

“The trick in your personal finances is to make it look small, that you feel poor, so you work harder again. Try to make it easy for you to invest and save, but try to make it hard for you to spend money,” he shared.

For more practical tips, catch the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk this Saturday, April 23, 2022, at 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel!

Feeling Hopeless? Here are 3 Ways to Overcome and Find Hope Again

Are you losing the reasons to keep going in your life?

Perhaps, you have experienced a series of challenges that left you feeling weary and defeated today.

No matter how bad things might seem right now, know that you can always overcome. Beyond Small Talk is here to help you!

Learn these 3 tips to find hope again amid challenging times, from guest Ruther Urquia who has also gone through rough patches in his life during the pandemic:

1. Trust God

Your situation today is not the end of your journey. Keep on believing that God is weaving these challenges to lead you to the best destination. The roadblocks you are facing today are part of your journey toward a purpose-driven life.

“You should not measure your life with just a single episode. God is using all events in your life to create His plan,” Ruther explained.

Trust and believe that these circumstances will eventually turn out to be your great testimonies that would bring glory to God and uplift others in the future.

2. Choose to thank God

You are probably in this season of your life when happiness seems a blurry choice to make, but there is always room for gratitude.

You can always choose to thank God for your life today regardless of your situation.

“You can choose to be happy,” Ruther remarked.

It may not be the breakthrough that you are expecting but choose to thank God for He has sustained you all this time. Hope is possible when people choose to look at the blessing of life and daily provision for whatever you need.

3. Continue to have a grateful heart

In the face of hopelessness, gratitude has the power to give life.

Letting go of what was lost and being grateful for what you still have can keep you grounded and hopeful. Remain grateful every day and remember that your all-knowing Heavenly Father can turn things around in His perfect time.

God will never abandon you even in this season of your life.

“Whatever you’re going through, God is with you,” Ruther encouraged.

So, the next time you feel defeated, frustrated, and even dismayed in your life, remember to fix your eyes on Jesus. With His help, you can overcome. You will receive the unshakable hope from Him amid your challenging season.

“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” (1 Peter 5:10 ESV)

Are you experiencing a tough time in your life lately?

Let Jesus comfort you. Begin your steps to peace today!

And if you need someone to talk to about your challenges in life, we are here to pray for you. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or send your prayer requests to our Facebook page.

Stay tuned for the next webisode of Beyond Small Talk this Saturday, April 9, 2022, at 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel.

See you there!

Brokenhearted? Here are Some Tips on How to Move On

You may just be seeking a life that is simple, peaceful, and happy, but you find yourself trapped in a maze of anger and unforgiveness. You struggle to let go but it seems like your past has a way of grappling you.

Worry not, Beyond Small Talk hosts Christine Kairuz, Bettinna Carlos, and Trish Chu share thoughts on how you can deal with these emotions and enter God’s promised rest.

Tip #1: Admit that you got hurt

Covering your wound hinders it from healing, while acknowledging that you’re hurt is a step closer to recovery. Allowing yourself to mourn helps you process what happened to you and the gravity of pain the person or situation caused you.

As Bettinna Carlos says, women, though viewed as strong, are also capable of being hurt.

It doesn’t make you less of a person to accept that you’re in pain because when you get to embrace the things that you cannot change, you start to heal. It’s like applying a first-aid, a soothing balm to your wounded heart.

After acknowledging that you cannot alter the things that hurt you, know that there are some things you can change like your perspective in life.

Do you allow trials to bring you down, or do you use it as stepping stones to better yourself?

Tip #2: Pray and ask God for the grace to forgive

How do you respond when you experience betrayal or heartbreaks?

Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

When you respond in prayer and “decide” to forgive, you let God comfort your tired heart. As Christine Kairuz puts it, “Bring all your pain to the cross, you will experience rest.”

Unforgiveness robs you of experiencing blessings and peace. So let God help you!

Let Him hold all your broken pieces and Have faith that He is working in your life to make you whole again. After all, your sufferings are temporary and His promises are forever.

You may not understand all the trials you’re facing right now, but believe in God’s goodness and supernatural healing. Ask Jesus to reveal His power during your trial. Your total recovery is in His hands.

Are you hurting and need someone to talk to?

We are here to comfort you. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or send us a message through The 700 Club Asia Facebook Page if you are outside the Philippines.

For more meaningful content, stay tuned to Beyond Small Talk every Saturday, 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube channel.

Ready to Vote? Here are 3 Leadership Qualities to Look for in a Candidate

There are many great leaders throughout history, but there’s only one person who has set the standards and embodied the true meaning of leadership—Jesus Christ.

Jesus made Himself of no reputation and took upon Him the form of a servant (Philippians 2:7). He came to earth not to be served but to serve mankind. He gave His life as a ransom for many (Matthew 20:28). 

This 2022 elections, it’s important to choose a leader who embodies Jesus’ example of leadership. 

Ready to vote?

Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz, Jericho Arceo, and Paul Herrera discussed the life of Jesus as a servant leader to help you decide the right qualities to look for in a candidate:

1. A true leader knows how to sacrifice

Even if Jesus knew He was God (Philippians 2:6-7), He chose to humble Himself so He could connect with His people and serve them. 

A leader should be someone who will sacrifice, serve, and go the extra mile for his or her constituents. 

2. A true leader teaches and models how to lead

He or she does not only instruct nor dictate what they should do but models it. 

“Jesus modeled servant leadership by serving others through the washing of His disciples’ feet and dying on the cross,” Paul Herrera explained. 

3. A true leader allows his or her followers to do things on their own

Jesus allowed His disciples to minister on their own and be able to apply what they have learned from Him. 

Has this article reminded you of what a leader should be? 

Share your thoughts with us! Join our online discussion and watch more webisodes of Beyond Small Talk every Saturday, 7:00 PM, at The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel.

3 Signs of a Toxic Relationship and How to Break Free

Are you trapped in a wrong, toxic relationship?

It’s time to leave the past behind and find emotional freedom in your relationships. So how do you let go when love turns into abuse, betrayal, or heartaches?

Discover how beauty queen and Beyond Small Talk host Lara Quigaman-Alcaraz found freedom and healing from a toxic romantic relationship.

But first, what does a toxic relationship look like?

When you are in a toxic relationship, it could be hard to see the red flags. So here are some telling signs to help you weigh:

1. When you love your partner more than you love God

Jesus Himself calls you to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind,” (Matthew 22:37 NIV). If you love your boyfriend or girlfriend more than you love God, if your relationship hinders you from honoring God, that relationship is not healthy for you.

2. When your world revolves around your partner

If you find it impossible to focus on anything but your relationship, if you don’t spend time with your family, friends, or church because all your attention goes to your partner – it’s an obvious sign that the relationship is toxic, Healthline says.

3. When the relationship becomes emotionally or physically abusive

“When your partner tells you mean things, or you yourself turn into a mean person; if you are always fighting and shouting at each other, these are clear signs that you’re in a toxic relationship,” Lara shared. Relationships have highs and lows, but when a man disrespects you, you know that you have to let it go.

If you ticked all the boxes above, don’t fret. You can get out of that rut! Here are some ways to break free from toxic relationships:

1. Cry out for help

Letting go of a relationship that you care about is a difficult thing to do, even if that relationship hurts you. So don’t hesitate to ask for help – from the people who loves you, from the God who loves you.

“Cry out for help to God. You pray, ‘Lord I want to get out of this relationship because I know that it’s wrong. Will you please help me, will you please strengthen me?’ Lara said, learning from a wrong relationship she had when she was younger. “I tell you, it’s difficult! Even though my toxic relationship ended, I still wanted to get back to that person that time because my heart wasn’t right with God yet.”

That’s why it’s important to seek God’s help. The hold of a toxic relationship on you could be very strong, but God can help you escape the bondage of pain and help you walk in total freedom.

2. Surround yourself with people you can trust and guide you

Do you have a life group or a Bible study group?

Who are your trusted family members, friends, or churchmates?

You need to be surrounded by people who love you enough to tell you that the relationship is wrong. These people want the best for you and are willing to be accountable for you when you tell them what is happening in the relationship.

3. Make yourself busy in improving yourself

Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein of Psychology Today suggests that you can get out of a toxic relationship if you keep knowing your value.

Work on yourself, focus on your growth, pay attention to your other relationships, and try to get a new hobby that would occupy your mind. Focus on the things God has revealed to you. See life through His eyes and watch His goodness unfold!

4. Be intentional in spending time with God

God promised that there is healing.

For you to receive His healing, you need to intentionally open your Bible, pray, soak in His promises each day, and remind yourself of your identity in God’s eyes.

If you are scared of making this huge decision, Lara left an assuring message for you:

“If you think you cannot leave because no one will love you, that is not true. That is a lie because Jesus loves you so much! You just need to set your eyes on Him. Allow Him to strengthen you to get out of that relationship. If God was able to take me out of that relationship, He can do the same for you.”

Take a deep breath. You can do this. You can overcome with the love of God – the love heals you, comforts you, and remains for you.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:35, 37-39 NKJV)

Are you looking for people who can pray for you and be accountable for you?

The CBN Asia Prayer Center is here to join you in prayers. We also have hundreds of faithful church partners across the country, just call 8-737-0-700 so we can connect you to a church near you.

Catch the next Beyond Small Talk webisode this Saturday, 7:00 PM on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel.

Are You Ready to Get Married? Here’s How to Know for Sure

Do you believe that God is calling you for marriage?

Do you feel that you’ve already found The One and you’re wondering if you are ready to settle down?

The world might tell you, “When you know, you know!”

Nevertheless, a successful marriage takes more than knowing what you want. It is living out the calling God has for you and his calling for husband and wives.

Here are some points and questions to ponder to help you find out if you are ready to tie the knot, from couple and Beyond Small Talk hosts Mikki and Bettinna Carlos-Eduardo:

Husband’s calling #1: Love your wife just as Christ loved the church

Pulled from the wisdom of Ephesians, this first point addresses the gentlemen in the room.

Gentlemen, God commands you to love your wife like how He loved the church—even to the point of giving up His own life. He calls you to mirror His sacrificial love.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.” (Ephesians 5:25-27 ESV)

If you want to get married, Mikki suggests that you ask yourself these important questions first: “Can you really love that person and die for her? Can I die to my rights, die to my desire—for her, and die to my time? Because the Bible says that you present her holy after God.”

Husband’s calling #2: Disciple and mentor your wife

Before you pop the question to your significant other, take an honest look at your relationship with her and your personal relationship with God.

Knowing these two is crucial because God calls husbands to present their wives to God (Ephesians 5:27). Consider if you can disciple, mentor, and lead the other person closer to the heart of Jesus.

“Can I mentor this girl? Can I lead her closer to God or I would only lead her away from Him? Will this person submit to God’s calling in my life, my leadership as a husband, God’s vision for me—as well as the direction, the job I want, the money that we’ll be earning?” says Mikki.

But what if the person is not willing to submit to God’s calling in your life?

Ask God for wisdom and discernment, and talk to your partner about these crucial things.

Perhaps, she has a different plan or calling. When you two have different callings, it could be challenging for her to submit to yours.

You will have to respect each other’s calling or as Mikki emphasized, maybe it’s time to be apart first until you are both aligned – or God call you to be aligned with someone else.

Bettinna agrees and reminded women to put all faith and trust in God, “Marrying my husband doesn’t shift my idea and my trust in provision from God to the husband. That still belongs to God. God is ultimately the one providing and will provide for our family.”

Wife’s calling #1: Submit to your husband

For women who are asking themselves if they are ready to get married, Bettinna brought valuable questions to the table to help you confirm.

“The Bible calls us to submit to our husbands. So if I were to submit, can I submit to this person? Do I trust this person? Do I trust this person’s wisdom? Can I submit to this person who submits to the same Bible? Does he trust the Lord’s wisdom? If it’s all yes, then you’re ready to submit.”

Before you say “I do,” determine what’s important to you and know exactly what kind of husband you need. Someone who will meet you in the middle, respect you, and mirror God’s everlasting love for you.

As for Bettinna, “I was looking for a spiritual leader, co-parent, someone who is worthy of my respect and submission. Because if you can’t trust and respect your man, don’t think that you can submit to him.”

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:22-33 NIV)

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