Do you know your role as a husband or as a wife?

As the Bible instructs, you are called to submit to one another out of your reverence for Christ.

Wives are to submit to their husbands as you do to the Lord, while husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Here’s the key to a successful and long-lasting relationship: Both of you should fulfill your role according to what the Word of God says.

To help you further here’s Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz and his wife, Christine’s advice:

God works in divine order.

Christine explained, “God is our commander-in-chief. The husband is the commander and the wife is the assistant to the commander.”

As the head of the wife, husbands should be the leader of the house.

However, take note that “Husbands are not dictators. They should not demand. They should not rule over their wives,” according to All About God in their write-up Role of Husband in the Bible.

“Instead, husbands should influence their wives and families in accordance with biblical teaching. They should exemplify, with their voice and their actions, attributes that bring glory to God and value to their spouse and family,” they said.

You have also been given the responsibility to provide for the needs of your family and to protect your home.

It is your duty as well to reassure your wife that she is loved, valued, and secured.

On the other hand, wives are helpers. From the Hebrew word Ezer in the Bible, helper means “helpmeet.” Ezer is a military word that means assistant to the commander.

“You are also an administrator and a companion,” says Christine. With the wisdom and the skills given to you by God, you should be able to manage your household with confidence and grace.

Another God-given role of the wife is being a lover and a companion to her husband.

“As a wife, you should always be ready for your husband,” Christine said.

Think of it this way.

“The husband is the head of the home, and the wife is the neck. The neck supports the head and helps the head to fulfill its duties,” shares Beth, a wife, in an article Role of the Wife in the Bible by All About God.

God designed it to be this way that you must work, not as enemies, but as a team united with Him to carry out what He has called you to do.

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