Are You Struggling to Forgive?

Are You Struggling to Forgive?

If you are struggling with forgiveness, then you can relate to Angeline’s story.

What would you do if you were given an opportunity to go to college?

Most people would agree that a good education is a ticket to a brighter future. But for Angeline Gacosta, it is a perfect plot for revenge.

Are You Struggling to Forgive?

Angeline went to college and took up Criminology because she wanted to have a gun. She thought that maybe a gun could protect her from bad people, from abusers… from her own father.

To say that Angeline hates her father would be an understatement. Time heals all wounds for some people, but for Angeline, the pain her father inflicted on her still stung even after all these years. His beatings. His cruel words. She remembers everything as if they were just yesterday.

“I did not feel that my father ever loved me because of the things he did to me,” Angeline lamented.

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But more than the bruises and wounds from his fists, Angeline’s father did what no father should ever do to an innocent child. Angeline was molested by her own father.

She was too young to know what was “normal behavior” then, but she felt what her father did to her was wrong. What hurts her more is that her mother knew about it, but she did not do anything to stop him.

“My mother was in denial about what happened. Growing up, I had to force a smile or a laugh to hide all my fears,” Angeline cried. “I told myself that I will not be a girl. I will hide my pain and would never let any man touch me again.”

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Dread overtook Angeline when she realized that their home had not been a safe place for her growing up. The trauma and the horrible memories from her father’s abuse and her mom’s denial of it left Angeline angry, confused, scared, and scarred for a long time.

To mask her pain, Angeline dressed and behaved like a man. She took all the rage she felt toward men and tried beating up her younger brother. The pain affected almost every area of her life.

“I took up Criminology because, with a gun, I could protect myself from men,” Angeline confessed “Eventually, I realized that taking that course just so I can avenge myself was wrong.”

Are You Struggling to Forgive?

However, her epiphany wasn’t enough to dissolve all the hate in her heart. Angeline spiraled into depression and decided to end all her miseries.

“Before jumping off our school building, I prayed, ‘Lord, why did this happen to me? Why is my family like this?’” Angeline recalled.

Do you, like Angeline, struggle to forgive? Do you find it difficult to let go of your painful past?

Trust that God can set you free!

Believe that there is a loving God who can help you let go of any pain or bitterness. Believe that He can mend your brokenness and make you feel whole again!

Are You Struggling to Forgive?

This has been true to Angeline. Just before she jumped off the building, God spoke to her heart.

She remembered, “The wind blew, and I heard a voice saying, ‘Hold on, My child. I love you. I am here for you.’ It was the first time I heard God’s voice.”

Angeline got to know God better when she joined Youth with a Mission – a Christian movement that helped her realize God’s purpose for her life. As she experienced God’s transforming love, she also learned to forgive her parents and herself.

“I had to release forgiveness so that I could forgive myself, too. If it wasn’t for God, I never could have forgiven my father. I never would have asked the forgiveness of my brother,” Angeline said.

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She discovered that time doesn’t heal all wounds – forgiveness does. And if you are struggling to forgive someone who hurt you deeply, Angeline has a message for you:

“We just have to embrace life’s challenges and allow them to point us to our faithful Lord. Troubles come and go, but God’s love remains forever,” Angeline ended.

Are You Struggling to Forgive?

Come to Jesus and let Him help you break free from the shackles of your past. Call upon Him and let His power lift all your heartaches, pain, and unforgiveness.

God is willing to give you a new heart – a heart that truly loves and truly forgives. Just ask for it!

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT)

Do you also want to experience God’s love and restoration?

We are here to pray for you! Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or send your prayer requests to our Facebook page.

Can You Still Trust God to Heal You from Brokenness?

Broken.

Abused.

Neglected.

Violated.

These are the words that resonated deeply in Aika’s mind.

They say time heals all wounds. But for Aika, there’s really no timetable for healing and recovering from the sexual abuse she suffered before.

She was just 12 years old.

Too young to deal with pain and shame, Aika kept the abuse all to herself. But the abuse went on from months to years until it became a normal thing for her.

The traumatic and life-altering experience resulted in Aika’s distorted view on love and relationships.

“I don’t like men. I don’t feel comfortable around them or being close to them.”

It started with hate towards men, then one thing led to another. She got hooked on pornography, drinking, and she started exploring relationships with the same sex.

Aika felt that there was a void she needed to fill. For her, love was the answer.

But looking for love in all the wrong places put Aika in a position of getting hurt and broken too easily.

So, she decided to end her latest relationship and focus on a networking business.

But like her relationships, her business venture also failed. Completely broken, depressed, and at her lowest point, Aika contemplated on ending her life.

Are you feeling like you’re at the end of your rope just like how Aika felt? Be encouraged that there is hope at the end of your sufferings.

“During the time that I was so down and I wanted to end my life, I chanced upon the 700 Club Asia and saw the testimony of young people like me. I said, ‘Lord, it is true, there is still a chance. You can change people’s lives.’”

This inspired her to travel to Manila and seek more of who God is and to look for the church featured on the testimony she saw.

“I didn’t expect them to welcome me, but they did. They appreciated who I am. I knew it wasn’t an accident that the preaching that day was about The Call. I knew God was calling me.”

The invitation was only the beginning of God’s greater plan for her. That day, she surrendered everything to God and embraced her new life in Christ.

“One day I woke up like a new person. I felt like I was born again. God has completely wiped away the mess in my life.”

And if this remained true for Aika, it will also be true for you. God indeed has the power to change your life.

Aika continued attending the church and has found spiritual mentors to help her in her faith journey. She also continued to watch The 700 Club Asia and found inspiration from real-life testimonies of people whose lives have been changed just like her.

“It really is a big help to know that the only thing we need is to have a relationship with the Lord. It’s not enough that we only know His name.”

God continued to use Aika in ministering to young people. He has also restored her relationship with her family and has blessed her to work in Dubai. Together with other OFWs, they established a church to serve and reach more people in need to hear God’s word.

“To people like me, who experienced the same situation, remember, God will fight for you, you only need to be still. God really has a purpose for everything, and He is using different situations where You will meet Him. He only wants you to have a relationship with Him so He can show you the love that only He is capable of giving,” she ended.

May Aika’s testimony be a reminder to you that no matter how dark your past was, and no matter how broken you were before, God will meet you where you are and His light will shine through your brokenness.

Like Aika, you too can experience healing and a fresh start.

Do you also want to be healed and be transformed by God’s amazing power? Surrender everything to God and trust in His process and timing.

If you need someone to talk to and pray for you, you can call us anytime, at CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or contact us via email (prayforme@cbnasia.org) or Skype (The700clubasia). You can also bring hope and help transform people’s lives by partnering with us. Be a CBN Asia partner today!

Struggling to Forgive your Parents? Here are 3 Steps to Help You

Are you angry with your parents? Taking care of a longtime resentment toward what they did in the past? 

What’s stopping you from letting it go?

Forgiveness isn’t easy, especially when the pain is just too deep, and it came from the people who were meant to protect you.

However, God wants you to forgive and honor your father and mother (Ephesians 6:2), that you may live a good life – with a heart free from any burden.

Here are 3 steps to help you begin healing and forgivingfrom CBN Asia Holy Week special Suklob: 

Step 1: Acknowledge the pain 

If you’ve already forgiven someone, you won’t remember the offense. 

Have you heard this phrase before? Forgiveness is not a denial. You shouldn’t pretend that the offense did not happen. You don’t have to forget it completely.

The first step toward your healing is recognizing the fault and accepting that it really happened.

Nett Gochuico, played by actor Kristoffer Martin, suffered verbal and physical abuse at the hands of his own father and felt neglected by his mother. He grew up harboring hate for both of his parents. He only started to forgive them when he acknowledged the pain they caused him.

Think of the offenses your parents may have committed against you and surrender them to God. Ask Him to heal each and every offense that keeps you from forgiving.

Step 2: Choose forgiveness. 

In Suklob, Nett has decided to forgive his father after realizing that it is the will of God and that his anger does nothing but harm his family. Despite being treated badly, he took the courageous step of breaking free from his cruel past and choosing forgiveness.

If you keep on waiting for the feeling of forgiveness to come, it might not come. Forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision to makeIt might not be easy, but the Lord can help you along the process. Ask Him to bless you with a forgiving heart and acknowledge that you cannot do it on your own.

What wounded you doesn’t have to hold you foreverChoosing forgiveness is choosing peace.

Step 3: Initiate forgiveness. 

When you’re hurt by your parents, you want them to own up to all their wrongs and apologize to you. But what if they don’t? Healing then would be difficult.

As Nett chose to spentime with his father, it gave him an opportunity to know him more, and understand that his father was hurt too. He recognized his father’s goodness that was pushed aside by pain. Nett put an effort to sit down with him, talk about his childhood wounds, and wholeheartedly initiate forgiveness to his father. He even brought his father to the saving love of God! 

Remember, to forgive is not to tolerate the bad habits or hurtful actions, rather, it’s freeing yourself from its bondage. Don’t be afraid, God has planted the good seed of forgiveness in your heart and He will help you through. 

You can’t change your past. But here’s the good news: the tale of the past pain doesn’t have to be in your future. Have faith that God has the power to heal you from any emotional trauma, free you from your emotional prison and turn your painful past into good!

As Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”

Are you struggling to forgive your parents right now? We’d love to pray for you. Send usyour prayer requests and visit The 700 Club Asia YouTube channel for inspiring stories of forgiveness and reconciliation. 

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