4 Safe and Meaningful Ways to Observe Holy Week in the New Normal

How did you spend the Holy Week during the pandemic?

You may have spent the last two years cooped up in your own home—waiting and praying for the pandemic to end so you can observe Holy Week the “normal” way you would.

Like you, many Filipinos missed visiting churches, going to prayer mountains, or simply spending a relaxing vacation with their loved ones.

Things will be a bit different this year.

As travel restrictions ease, churches have resumed religious activities while more and more people are travelling. In fact, the Manila Bulletin has reported that the government is preparing for the biggest Holy Week traffic surge.

If you’re wondering how you can spend a safe and meaningful Holy Week during the new normal, consider these 4 ways:

1. Spend time with God

The world needs your prayers, always.

Whether as an individual or as a family, the new normal is a season to spend more time with God. Close that door, open the Bible, and meditate on God’s Word.

Ask, “What have I learned during the pandemic? How can those experiences lead me closer to God? Jesus, what can I do to be more like You today?”

Apart from praying for protection, provision, and continuous healing of this nation, may your prayer times be as what CBN suggests on their article titled Lent: What Is It Good For? The days of Lent and Holy Week are a time of meditation, fasting and repentance. It’s a time to wage war against desires that may be contrary to God’s Word.

2. Spend time with family

Spending quality time with your family is one of the many things you can do during the Holy Week.

It doesn’t have to be a lavish out-of-town trip. You may simply gather at home and watch shows that foster good family values like forgiveness, or shows that teach what it means to give and share love like Jesus.

It could be a perfect time to express love, restore relationships, and create meaningful conversations with your family members.

3. Be wise and obedient

As you set foot once again onto the busy roads, remember that the threat of being exposed to the COVID-19 virus is still present.

Stay informed about the rules implemented in your community, churches, and the places you plan to visit—and obey them accordingly. Spend a safe and meaningful Holy Week by observing basic rules such as wearing face masks and practicing social distancing.

Show how you value your God-given life and the lives of others. This Holy Week, honor God through your actions wherever you go.

4. Extend help

Aside from spending time with your loved ones, God also calls His people to show compassion to those who are in need.

You might feel as if the pandemic is over. You might think that everything is going back to normal. But truth is, many of your kababayans are still struggling because of the pandemic.

Observe a meaningful Holy Week by sharing hope to families in need. Support them by giving to humanitarian organizations, like Operation Blessing Foundation Philippines. As you experience more of Jesus this Holy Week, let others experience His love through you.

May you have a safe and a meaningful Holy Week!

Do you want to know more about Jesus, and the real meaning and importance of Holy Week in your life?

Know Jesus by visiting this page.

If you need prayers and encouragement, we are here for you. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or send your prayer requests to [email protected].

How to Maintain Relationships Despite Political Differences?

It’s election season and yes, the heat is on!

It isn’t just a time when candidates present their platforms and woo their kababayans, it has also become a time of mudslinging, name-calling, and dropping friends and family members who disagree with political beliefs.

Do you feel that the upcoming elections uncover huge differences you haven’t seen before?

People you thought were reasonable and intelligent seemed like strangers. You think to yourself—or even tell others, “How could you think that? How could you support that candidate? I thought you were smart!”

If you’ve been shocked, frustrated, and maybe even angered by ongoing political conversations, you might be wondering how you can keep politics from ruining your relationships. Here are 5 practical tips to maintain relationships despite political differences:

Tip #1: Choose dialogue over debate

While debates may be helpful in some situations, dialogues are more likely to increase people’s ability to connect in healthy ways, University of Michigan suggests. A dialogue creates an environment that is safe, affirming, and fair for everyone.

It’s easy to lash out or argue when the other person disagrees, but by asking questions respectfully, you can get to a place of true understanding. So instead of coming from a place of judgment, be genuinely interested to learn their motivations, values, and concerns.

Tip #2: Practice healthy disagreement

While it’s true that some people are misinformed or joining a bandwagon, it’s also possible that they support a candidate because they truly believe that it’s the right direction for the country.

Sometimes it’s best to “agree to disagree.” Psychology Today suggests how healthy disagreement looks like: people with different perspectives coming together as equals, to reason with and sharpen each other.

Welcome strong opinions and emotions but avoid coercing them to your beliefs.

Tip #3: Seek unity

What comes to your mind when you think of someone with a different political stand?

When you get frustrated or irritated about someone’s political belief, seek unity. Try to find a common ground—an approach that is proven to bring people together during a conflict, says BetterUp. Focusing on what you have in common—like your passion for the country—can help you feel more at ease even though you don’t agree with each other.

Walk in love, respect, and humility—so you can show the world what unity really looks like and bring glory to God.

Tip #4: Slow down

It’s easy to get angry, frustrated, or just downright confused at people’s political choices. Before you say something that might damage the relationship, perhaps it’s time to hit the brakes and slow down. Step away, say a prayer, and ask God’s help.

Before things get intense, Harvard Business Review suggests that you watch for your tipping point. Is your heart rate going up? Face turning red? Breathing becoming shallow?

Slow down and step back from the conversation. Take a few deep breaths and ask for God’s guidance, then try to bring empathy into the conversation.

Tip #5: Trust God

While it’s true that the election has a significant effect on the country, it’s important to remember that God’s kingdom is bigger than any government, nation, or political outcome.

The Philippine election is under God’s plan and He will accomplish His purpose for the nation. Whenever you talk about politics, remember and practice the highest call—to love Jesus and love your neighbors (Mark 12:30-31).

You don’t need to solve every political problem or meet every need at the expense of your relationships. Find what you can do and take small steps toward bettering your country—all while praying for the candidates and the nation—and trusting that no matter what happens in the elections, God is still in ultimate control.

“Blessed be the name of God forever and ever, to whom belong wisdom and might. He changes times and seasons; he removes kings and sets up kings; he gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding.” (Daniel 2:20-21 ESV)

Are you worried, frustrated, or angered about the upcoming elections? Are you having a hard time maintaining relationships because of politics?

Do you need someone to pray with you?

Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700, email [email protected], or send your prayer requests to our Facebook page.

Feeling Sad? Apply these 3 Habits that Bring Joy

Are you one of the many people who want more joy?

Of course, you are. But with all the conflicts, political divide, natural disasters and the ups and downs of life, joy is something everyone longs for but often seems difficult to grab hold of.

Thankfully, experiencing joy is part of God’s will for you! It’s the kind of joy that doesn’t depend on what you do or what happens around you. It’s the joy that surpasses human understanding and rises above any circumstance.

God shares in His Word how you can experience more of His joy in your life. Here are 3 habits that lead to true and lasting joy:

Habit #1: Obey God

Obedience to God is the most important habit that you can practice to experience more joy in life. To some, this may seem illogical—doesn’t joy sound freeing while obedience sounds restricting?

Truth is, obedience brings great joy! The Bible paints a clear connection between obedience to Jesus and experiencing His joy. In one of His last conversations with His disciples, Jesus tells them to abide in Him, abide in His Word, and abide in His love.

“If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.” (John 15:10–11 ESV)

Obedience to God is the way to experience the fullness of His joy. This means that every time you turn to Jesus, you turn to knowing His love and the joy that it brings. Yes, obeying God isn’t always convenient or easy, but as you walk in His will, you also walk in His blessing.

Habit #2: Live a life of contentment

Contentment is freedom. Contentment is being happy right where you are. And as you learn to let go of painful cravings of what you can’t have and be thankful for what you have right now, living a content life leads to joy.

In the Bible, apostle Paul said that he learned contentment—this means that contentment is a learned behavior, a discipline that must be cultivated every day.

“Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:11-13 ESV)

Like obedience, contentment doesn’t come easily for everyone. But by God’s grace, you can learn and grow.

Ask God to help you realize that circumstances don’t have to lead your feelings, that you don’t need to seek worldly happiness because you have eternal joy, that you don’t need to seek love because you’re already loved by God. Ask Jesus to help you experience the joy that comes with being content in Him.

Habit #3: Serve and give

Money, time, talents, stories, kindness… life.

It’s easy to keep these things to oneself. But God’s Word suggests a radical thought: to experience joy in life is to share it with others.

Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” (Luke 6:38 ESV)

It doesn’t necessarily mean that, when you give one bread to the hungry, you will get 10 breads in return. Jesus gives back something much more valuable than material things; He blesses your giving with joy and sense of fulfillment.

Increase your joy by serving others cheerfully and giving generously. As you serve and give, you also receive. You also experience the greatest joy in life from the source of joy Himself—Jesus.

What about you, what habits do you practice to cultivate more joy into your life?

Let us know in the comments section below!

This Holy Week, be inspired by stories of changed lives made possible through joyful giving. Watch Tanikala: Tugon sa Dalangin – an Operation Blessing Special, on April 14, at 10:30 AM, on GMA.

5 Tips to Cultivate Forgiveness in Your Marriage

Agree or disagree: Forgiveness is one of, if not the most important aspect of marriage.

You might say it is love, but come to think of it—isn’t forgiveness a huge part of it? There is no love without forgiveness, and you can only sustain a marriage if you know how to truly forgive.

Here’s the good thing about forgiveness: It is possible! You can always choose to cultivate forgiveness in your marriage and your home.

Let forgiveness reign within your marriage with these 5 helpful tips:

1. Be quick to forgive

One of the most common misconceptions about forgiveness is that it is a “one-time, bigtime” thing. Truth is, forgiveness is a day-by-day process of extending grace into your marriage.

Colossians 3 holds the same message: forgive quickly and completely. Be honest about how the hurt has affected you, but don’t stay in that pit for too long lest it breed anger and bitterness. Choose not to linger on the offense. Forgive quickly. Forgive frequently.

“Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you.” Colossians 3:12-14 MSG)

2. Keep no record of wrongs

When your spouse wronged you, it’s so easy to fall into the habit of finding faults in everything that they do. Knowing this reality, the Bible has a gentle reminder: Love keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5).

Do you want to cultivate forgiveness in your marriage?

Avoid keeping mental notes of what’s been done to you. Stop looking for occasions to be offended and avoid continuously punishing your spouse for the offenses they have made in the past. Let go and let God do the work in their hearts.

3. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouth

Things might not have worked out the way you wanted; you’ve been hurt the way you hadn’t expected. All that pain, disappointment, and anger could easily contaminate your communication with your spouse.

Allowing hateful talk with your spouse is like rubbing salt into an open wound. It aggravates the situation, yet it brings no good. Instead of reminding your spouse of their failures and frailties, sow gentle words of love and encouragement to build them up. Choose your words wisely.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” (Ephesians 4:29 ESV)

4. Confess, apologize, and pray

You and your spouse will both make mistakes, that’s a given. But if you look at successful marriages, you will see a common denominator: they are good forgivers.

Therefore, a lasting marriage is a union of two very forgiving people—a husband and wife who both have this habit of confessing their wrongs, apologizing, and asking for forgiveness.

Why not start with yourself? Show your spouse that you forgive them, then pray for them. Show how much you value forgiveness, so you can encourage them to make room for forgiveness as well. It might be hard at first especially when the offense is too deep, so it’s good to remember that you can always ask God to help you forgive.

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” (James 5:16 ESV)

5. Realize that you needed forgiveness too

Before you can extend forgiveness to others, it’s important to realize that you needed forgiveness, too—and it was freely given to you.

All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). This means that you, too, make mistakes. Thankfully, God isn’t only just—He is continuously forgiving! He showed His forgiveness, mercy, and love for you by dying on the cross and giving you an eternal life.

So whenever you’re torn between exercising justice and forgiving your spouse, choose forgiveness. Forgiveness is powerful and healing, so give it to your spouse in the same way you have received it from God.

This Holy Week, witness the power of forgiveness in restoring a marriage marred by betrayal. Watch Tanikala: Paghilom, starring real-life couple Marco and Lara Quigaman-Alcaraz, airing on April 15, at 10:30 AM on GMA.

Brokenhearted? Here are Some Tips on How to Move On

You may just be seeking a life that is simple, peaceful, and happy, but you find yourself trapped in a maze of anger and unforgiveness. You struggle to let go but it seems like your past has a way of grappling you.

Worry not, Beyond Small Talk hosts Christine Kairuz, Bettinna Carlos, and Trish Chu share thoughts on how you can deal with these emotions and enter God’s promised rest.

Tip #1: Admit that you got hurt

Covering your wound hinders it from healing, while acknowledging that you’re hurt is a step closer to recovery. Allowing yourself to mourn helps you process what happened to you and the gravity of pain the person or situation caused you.

As Bettinna Carlos says, women, though viewed as strong, are also capable of being hurt.

It doesn’t make you less of a person to accept that you’re in pain because when you get to embrace the things that you cannot change, you start to heal. It’s like applying a first-aid, a soothing balm to your wounded heart.

After acknowledging that you cannot alter the things that hurt you, know that there are some things you can change like your perspective in life.

Do you allow trials to bring you down, or do you use it as stepping stones to better yourself?

Tip #2: Pray and ask God for the grace to forgive

How do you respond when you experience betrayal or heartbreaks?

Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

When you respond in prayer and “decide” to forgive, you let God comfort your tired heart. As Christine Kairuz puts it, “Bring all your pain to the cross, you will experience rest.”

Unforgiveness robs you of experiencing blessings and peace. So let God help you!

Let Him hold all your broken pieces and Have faith that He is working in your life to make you whole again. After all, your sufferings are temporary and His promises are forever.

You may not understand all the trials you’re facing right now, but believe in God’s goodness and supernatural healing. Ask Jesus to reveal His power during your trial. Your total recovery is in His hands.

Are you hurting and need someone to talk to?

We are here to comfort you. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or send us a message through The 700 Club Asia Facebook Page if you are outside the Philippines.

For more meaningful content, stay tuned to Beyond Small Talk every Saturday, 7:00 PM, on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube channel.

3 Tips to Break Free from Worry

How are you feeling today?

Two years into the pandemic and the world is still living in uncertainty. If anxious thoughts and excessive worrying have caused feelings of suffering and even hindered your daily life, you might be wondering how to overcome.

This is your reminder that you can break free from worry!

Here are 3 simple tips to help you overcome worry and anxious thoughts:

1. Identify your worries

One helpful technique to overcome anxious thoughts is to acknowledge your worries, Helpguide suggests.

Ask yourself, “What worries me the most?” Is it financial worries brought by the pandemic? Is it physical health, emotional, relational, or spiritual?

If you can identify the source of your worry and anxiety, then you can start addressing and treating it.

How to Break Free from Worry

2. Take control of your thought life

A lot of people have struggled with anxiety, but now even more. Thankfully, you have the power to defend yourself from these negative thoughts.

Luke 21:14 encourages you that you have the power to “make up your mind not to worry.”

It means you have a choice to center your mind on negative thoughts, or center your thoughts on God and His promises. He can free you from anxiety and worry, but first, you must believe it and take hold of it.

How to Break Free from Worry

3. Improve your prayer life

Whenever you are feeling worried about anything, pray. Pass that weight to Jesus and receive His peace that surpasses all understanding.

Likewise, help eliminate your worry by relying on the Word of God to help you concentrate on the comfort that God brings. It would be helpful to stick to your prayer times, read your Bible, and find comfort by reading devotionals about COVID-19 and the pandemic.

Overcoming negative thoughts isn’t easy, but through time, practice, and prayers, you can move forward away from a life of worry.

“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 ESV)

Do you want break free from worry?

Keep those anxious thoughts at bay with the help of God’s Word! Find courage, joy, and comfort through CBN Asia’s FREE 14-Day Devotional for COVID-19. Download the devotional today and discover how you can deal with worry, fear, and grief brought by the pandemic—and how you can find hope and everlasting peace.

If you need someone to pray for you, feel free to call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700. You may also comment your prayer requests below or send them through our Facebook page.

Ready to Vote? Here are 3 Leadership Qualities to Look for in a Candidate

There are many great leaders throughout history, but there’s only one person who has set the standards and embodied the true meaning of leadership—Jesus Christ.

Jesus made Himself of no reputation and took upon Him the form of a servant (Philippians 2:7). He came to earth not to be served but to serve mankind. He gave His life as a ransom for many (Matthew 20:28). 

This 2022 elections, it’s important to choose a leader who embodies Jesus’ example of leadership. 

Ready to vote?

Beyond Small Talk hosts Peter Kairuz, Jericho Arceo, and Paul Herrera discussed the life of Jesus as a servant leader to help you decide the right qualities to look for in a candidate:

1. A true leader knows how to sacrifice

Even if Jesus knew He was God (Philippians 2:6-7), He chose to humble Himself so He could connect with His people and serve them. 

A leader should be someone who will sacrifice, serve, and go the extra mile for his or her constituents. 

2. A true leader teaches and models how to lead

He or she does not only instruct nor dictate what they should do but models it. 

“Jesus modeled servant leadership by serving others through the washing of His disciples’ feet and dying on the cross,” Paul Herrera explained. 

3. A true leader allows his or her followers to do things on their own

Jesus allowed His disciples to minister on their own and be able to apply what they have learned from Him. 

Has this article reminded you of what a leader should be? 

Share your thoughts with us! Join our online discussion and watch more webisodes of Beyond Small Talk every Saturday, 7:00 PM, at The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel.

To Love and to Hold: 7 Tips to Stay in Love in Marriage

Are you wondering how to make your relationship last?

Here’s the thing: A strong marriage doesn’t happen overnight. Marriage is hard work. It takes commitment, compromise, forgiveness, and a whole lot of effort and prayers.

So whether you’ve been together for a year or 30, you can still learn, unlearn, and re-learn a couple of things so you can preserve a loving relationship that stands the test of time.

Here are 7 tips to stay in love in your marriage:

Tip #1: Prioritize regular quality time together

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day activities, but if you want a happy and lasting relationship, spend quality time with your spouse.

The National Marriage Project found that couples who spend quality time at least once a week were approximately 3.5 times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriages compared to those who didn’t.

So, do lots of things together! You don’t have to do everything together—just make sure you have regular quality time doing things you both enjoy. It could be as simple as doing household chores together or movie marathon, to taking a weeklong vacation.

Tip #2: Give lots of positive affirmation

What are the good things you see in your spouse? Tell them. Be their biggest cheerleader.

Verywell Mind agree, and adds that offering words of affirmation to your spouse can help nurture emotional intimacy, which plays a crucial role in relationships.

What about their imperfections, or things that they do wrong? Sometimes, it’s helpful to confront them—sometimes it’s more helpful to pray about them and just encourage them in the good things that they’re doing. If needed, correct them in a gentle, loving way.

Tip #3: Use your words as you ask for what you need

Asking for what you want in marriage can make you feel vulnerable, but The Healthy Marriage affirms that being vulnerable about your needs makes it easier for your partner to meet them.

Do you need or want something? Communicate it to your spouse. Kindly saying, “I would really like it if you cooked dinner,” or “I need this,” keeps your marriage going forward and saves the both of you from unnecessary frustration.

There’s nothing wrong with asking for what you want. If there’s a need inside that’s not being met, ask your spouse if you can work on it together. Be clear, kind, and specific. Having that constant communication is one of the big keys in marriage.

Tip #4: Use gentle tone of voice

Surprisingly, the words you use are only a small part of the message. Body language researcher Albert Mehrabian claims that communication is 55% nonverbal, 38% vocal, and 7% words only.

This means that a significant portion of the message is your tone of voice and body language. Your tone affects your relationships—especially your marriage! Encourage healthy communication with your spouse by speaking in a calm, gentle voice.

If you’re unsure how they interpret your message, you can ask for feedback. Ask, “How did my tone come across? Is it edgy, does it turn you off, does it hurt you, is it coming through in a good way?” Ask and listen to what they say.

Tip #5: Continually lean towards your spouse

Having personal space and time to yourself is important, but make sure that your frame of mind is always in the posture of leaning towards your spouse.

In a research conducted by The Gottman Institute among newlyweds, couples who stayed married after 6 years are those who turned towards one another 86% of the time. Couples that divorced averaged only 33% of the time.

It’s easy to pull away from each other when marriage gets tough, but study shows that lasting marriages are between husbands and wives who lean towards each other. Initiate physical touch. Check up on them regularly. Pay attention to their needs.

Tip #6: Avoid airing your “dirty laundry” in public

When you have disagreements, be very wise in the way you confront your spouse about it—not in front of other people. Definitely not at the dinner table with your in-laws or on social media.

It’s best to avoid arguing in public for a couple of reasons. According to psychotherapist Melanie Shapiro, fighting in public threatens intimacy. Not to mention that it could be awkward for everyone else in the room.

Moreover, when someone is exposed in public, their instinctive response would be protecting their reputation—not dealing with the issue. So if something is wrong, let your spouse know that you’d like to settle it privately. If you need to talk about an issue with other people which can be helpful in certain situations, make sure your spouse agreed about it ahead of time.

Tip #7: Pursue your spouse

What are you doing to pursue your spouse?

Many people think that courtship and dating is only for the early years of a relationship. Once you’ve tied the knot, pursuing each other suddenly becomes unimportant.

Here’s the truth: Marriage isn’t a destination. It’s a lifelong journey of practicing the art of love to one another. So husbands and wives, find ways to pursue each other every day!

Pursue your spouse romantically and do your best to initiate intimacy. What does your spouse like? What makes them feel loved? Initiate opportunities for those things.

Most importantly, pursue your spouse by praying for them. Ask God to bless, protect, and strengthen them. Pray for your marriage, that you continue to grow in love. Ask for more patience, forgiveness, and humility.

Thank God for blessing you with someone to love and to hold, someone to cherish life with. Pray that He changes the both of you into the man and woman He wants you to be.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV)

Do you need someone to help you pray for your marriage? 

We are here for you! Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700, or send in your prayer requests to our Facebook page.

3 Signs of a Toxic Relationship and How to Break Free

Are you trapped in a wrong, toxic relationship?

It’s time to leave the past behind and find emotional freedom in your relationships. So how do you let go when love turns into abuse, betrayal, or heartaches?

Discover how beauty queen and Beyond Small Talk host Lara Quigaman-Alcaraz found freedom and healing from a toxic romantic relationship.

But first, what does a toxic relationship look like?

When you are in a toxic relationship, it could be hard to see the red flags. So here are some telling signs to help you weigh:

1. When you love your partner more than you love God

Jesus Himself calls you to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind,” (Matthew 22:37 NIV). If you love your boyfriend or girlfriend more than you love God, if your relationship hinders you from honoring God, that relationship is not healthy for you.

2. When your world revolves around your partner

If you find it impossible to focus on anything but your relationship, if you don’t spend time with your family, friends, or church because all your attention goes to your partner – it’s an obvious sign that the relationship is toxic, Healthline says.

3. When the relationship becomes emotionally or physically abusive

“When your partner tells you mean things, or you yourself turn into a mean person; if you are always fighting and shouting at each other, these are clear signs that you’re in a toxic relationship,” Lara shared. Relationships have highs and lows, but when a man disrespects you, you know that you have to let it go.

If you ticked all the boxes above, don’t fret. You can get out of that rut! Here are some ways to break free from toxic relationships:

1. Cry out for help

Letting go of a relationship that you care about is a difficult thing to do, even if that relationship hurts you. So don’t hesitate to ask for help – from the people who loves you, from the God who loves you.

“Cry out for help to God. You pray, ‘Lord I want to get out of this relationship because I know that it’s wrong. Will you please help me, will you please strengthen me?’ Lara said, learning from a wrong relationship she had when she was younger. “I tell you, it’s difficult! Even though my toxic relationship ended, I still wanted to get back to that person that time because my heart wasn’t right with God yet.”

That’s why it’s important to seek God’s help. The hold of a toxic relationship on you could be very strong, but God can help you escape the bondage of pain and help you walk in total freedom.

2. Surround yourself with people you can trust and guide you

Do you have a life group or a Bible study group?

Who are your trusted family members, friends, or churchmates?

You need to be surrounded by people who love you enough to tell you that the relationship is wrong. These people want the best for you and are willing to be accountable for you when you tell them what is happening in the relationship.

3. Make yourself busy in improving yourself

Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein of Psychology Today suggests that you can get out of a toxic relationship if you keep knowing your value.

Work on yourself, focus on your growth, pay attention to your other relationships, and try to get a new hobby that would occupy your mind. Focus on the things God has revealed to you. See life through His eyes and watch His goodness unfold!

4. Be intentional in spending time with God

God promised that there is healing.

For you to receive His healing, you need to intentionally open your Bible, pray, soak in His promises each day, and remind yourself of your identity in God’s eyes.

If you are scared of making this huge decision, Lara left an assuring message for you:

“If you think you cannot leave because no one will love you, that is not true. That is a lie because Jesus loves you so much! You just need to set your eyes on Him. Allow Him to strengthen you to get out of that relationship. If God was able to take me out of that relationship, He can do the same for you.”

Take a deep breath. You can do this. You can overcome with the love of God – the love heals you, comforts you, and remains for you.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:35, 37-39 NKJV)

Are you looking for people who can pray for you and be accountable for you?

The CBN Asia Prayer Center is here to join you in prayers. We also have hundreds of faithful church partners across the country, just call 8-737-0-700 so we can connect you to a church near you.

Catch the next Beyond Small Talk webisode this Saturday, 7:00 PM on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel.

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There are 5 Love Languages, Which One Do You Speak?

Do you feel most loved when people say they appreciate you?

If so, your love language is probably words of affirmation. If you believe that actions speak louder than words, then you could be speaking the love language of receiving gifts.

But what are love languages, really?

After many years of marriage counseling, Dr. Gary Chapman authored the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts and suggested that there are 5 love languages in which people understand, give, and receive love.

And because different people feel love differently, experts believe that knowing your love language would help you communicate love effectively.

Which among these 5 love languages do you speak?

what are the 5 love languages

1. Words of affirmation

Do you like hearing an “I love you” or receiving genuine compliments? Do you enjoy kind words and encouragement? If yes, then this is your love language.

While many people long for affectionate words and affirmation, words mean more deeply to you. You feel most loved when you hear that you are loved.

2. Quality time

If you value full and undivided attention above all else, quality time is your love language.

This means you appreciate one-on-one time with the TV off, people not checking their phones every 2 minutes, and just spending a meaningful moment with the ones you love.

what are the 5 love languages

3. Receiving gifts

Sure, a lot of people like receiving gifts but there are people who love receiving gifts above all else.

If you belong in this love language, gifts mean more than just material things to you. It doesn’t matter whether you receive a luxury watch or a pint of your favorite ice cream. You see the love, effort, and thoughtfulness that go with that special gift.

For you, it’s not the cost, it’s the thought!

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4. Acts of service

This could be your love language if you feel appreciated when people do nice things for you.

To you, it does not always have to be grandiose. It could be as simple as helping you with the dishes or lending a hand during a stressful task.

Acts of service make you feel loved and cherished in any relationship. You appreciate any favor, huge or small. Every intentional or random act of service goes straight to your heart.

what are the 5 love languages

5. Physical touch

Are hugs, holding hands, or other affectionate touches most important to you? Perhaps, physical touch is your love language.

People who identify with this love language prefer physical contact over words or gifts. A touch on the arm or a massage at the end of the day mean a lot. To you, being touchy-feely makes you feel loved, cared for, and appreciated.

Which love language resonates with you the most?

Whichever of these you most strongly identify with, it is good to note that understanding their differences can make a serious impact on your relationships, Verywell Mind concludes.

what are the 5 love languages

God speaks your love language

Someone who is committed to following God’s call of loving people would make use of these love languages not just to receive love, but to share it in meaningful ways.

Even so, God’s love is not limited to 5 languages.

He speaks a “love language” that no one can see, hear, nor understand fully—unless He blesses them (Matthew 13:16-17).

And as you discover how you can speak love to yourself and to the people around you, may you be reminded that it can only be done with the Source of love (1 John 4:7). May you be comforted that God speaks your love language, and He speaks it fluently.

“So that the Messiah may live in your hearts through your trusting. Also I pray that you will be rooted and founded in love, so that you, with all God’s people, will be given strength to grasp the breadth, length, height and depth of the Messiah’s love, yes, to know it, even though it is beyond all knowing, so that you will be filled with all the fullness of God.” (Ephesians 3:17-19 CJB)

Do you feel like nobody loves you?

Do you find it hard to express love to the people around you?

Do you want to experience God’s boundless love?

We are here to encourage you. Take your first step toward Jesus Christ and call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700. You can also send in your prayer requests through our Facebook page.

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What It Takes To Believe in God

His love for you is endless. That’s the kind that never fades. He reminds us all of his love for us in Jeremiah 31:3you with unfailing kindness.

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The Fearless Life | God’s Word Today

His love for you is endless. That’s the kind that never fades. He reminds us all of his love for us in Jeremiah 31:3

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What It Takes To Believe in God

His love for you is endless. That’s the kind that never fades. He reminds us all of his love for us in Jeremiah 31:3you with unfailing kindness.

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The Fearless Life | God’s Word Today

His love for you is endless. That’s the kind that never fades. He reminds us all of his love for us in Jeremiah 31:3