Have you just found out that your spouse has cheated?
This must be a painful, painful time for you. You feel angry, confused… lost. To you, there are no words to describe this life-shattering news that the person you love and trust had an affair with somebody else.
If you are in this difficult situation, here’s an encouraging message for you today: you can heal.
There is hope for your marriage despite all these things that just happened. It may seem like a far off, distant thing, but it is possible to heal after an affair as you and your spouse take the first steps toward change.
Here are some ways to help you recover from infidelity and rebuild your marriage, from CBN Asia’s Holy Week Special, Tanikala: Paghilom:
1. Pray and seek God’s help
Toni Miranda, played by actress Lara Quigaman-Alcaraz, found herself cheating on her husband John, portrayed by actor Marco Alcaraz. After realizing the weight of her sins, Toni fell on her knees and sought God’s forgiveness. She and her husband asked God to help restore their marriage and heal their broken hearts.
Thankfully, God is in the business of restoring broken things—especially marriages (1 Peter 5:10). Seek His guidance because His desire and design for your marriage is to be strong and healthy.
Pray that He gives you the strength, comfort, and wisdom you need to rebuild a relationship that stands the test of time. Trust that He can do miracles in your marriage and in this situation.
2. Choose forgiveness
It’s hard to forgive after all the texts you’ve read, the pictures you discovered, the conversations you overheard, or the numbing situation you walked into.
John knows exactly how you feel. In Paghilom, John’s world turned upside down after learning about his wife’s multiple affairs. Instead of lingering on the offense or punishing Toni, John chose to fix his eyes on Jesus. He chose to love and forgive his wife.
The pain of betrayal stings like no other, but forgiveness is like the healing balm that liberates you from the wounds of the past. You might struggle to forgive at first, but it becomes easier as you realize that when you needed forgiveness for your sins, God has freely forgiven you.
“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all sins.” (Proverbs 10:12 NKJV)
3. Go to marriage counseling
Throughout their healing journey, Toni and John sought God. They also sought the help of trusted friends, marriage counselors, and signed up for a healing recovery program which helped them address their issues as a couple and as individuals.
Like them, you might want to consider consulting with a trained marriage counselor or family counselors at church. You don’t have to carry the pain alone—seek help. Both of you can make the decision to get some outside help and prayers.
Invest time for your marriage and be intentional in rebuilding your relationship with your spouse. As devastating as an affair is, God does some amazing things when a couple commits to rebuilding their marriage.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.” (Proverbs 3:5-8 ESV)
Do you need God’s healing and restoration in your marriage?
We are here to pray for you. Call the CBN Asia Prayer Center at 8-737-0-700 or send your prayer requests to our Facebook page.
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Aileen Dela Cruz says:
Please pray for me to heal my broken heart and to rebuild trust to my husband who cheated on me ng paulit ulit before. Kahit na natiklo ko na siya sa mga ginawa niya ay never pa rin po siya umamin sa akin. Sobrang napakasakit po ang betrayal na naranasan ko at mga panlilinlang niya sa akin nung time na yun dahil pinagtatakpan pa niya ang mga kasalanan niya sa mas matinding kasalanan pa sa pamamagitan ng pagsisinungaling niya sa akin ng patong patong.
Married na po kasi kami at natatakot ako kay God dahil hate niya ang divorce. Gusto ko na sana nun makipaghiwalay para magawa na niya ang mag flirt sa iba ibang babae.
Simula nung pinagtaksilan ako ng asawa ko, napakarami ko na pong insecurities sa sarili ko na dati ay kontento naman ako sa kung anong itsura ko dahil yun ang ipinagkaloob sa akin ng Diyos. Nakakalungkot lang po na natuto na rin akong ikumpara ang sarili ko sa ibang babae, at nagpapaka trying hard na sumabay sa uso like pananamit, go with the flow sa mga millenial songs etc. Dahil napansin ko na mas bata kesa sa husband ko yong mga kinikilala niyang mga babae that time. Mas matanda po pala ako sa husband ko kaya simple lang ako mag get up and hindi ma porma.
Nakapag undergo na po pala kami ng marriage counseling and meron na rin Dgroup.
Always praying po na mabago ni Lord totally ang husband ko at maging mabuti siya palagi.
Ang struggle ko ngayon ay bumabalik pa rin po yong sakit na naramdaman ko dati. Dahil siguro never umamin ang asawa ko at hindi naman siya nag sorry sa akin that time. Pumapasok pa rin sa isip ko kung minahal ba niya ang mga babaeng yun at kung ano anong effort ang mga ginawa niya at ibinigay niya sa kanila. Ayaw ko po mag look back pero sadyang mahina lang ako at naiisip ko pa rin lahat ng iyon.
Sa ngayon po nagkakaroon na naman ako ng dreams na parang may ginagawa na naman yong asawa ko. Which is dati kasi nananaginip na po ako ng mga signs na nagchi cheat siya sa akin pero dahil wala naman ako makita ay pilit ko pinaniwala noon ang sarili ko na hindi naman siguro gagawin iyon ng asawa ko. Meron din ako napapansin sa mga ikinikilos niya ngayong magkasama na kami physically which is nung LDR pa kami ay naramdaman ko na rin yun at napansin ko na din.
Please help me pray na ma enlighten po ako 🙏 and lagi lang mag trust kay God kasi he is in control of everything.
Thank you po!
cbnasiaprayercenter says:
Hi Aileen, maraming salamat sa pagbabahagi mo nito sa amin. Higit kanino man ay ang Diyos ang nakakaunawa ng iyong pinagdadaanan ngayon. Batid Niya na ikaw ay nahihirapan kaya’t patuloy ka lamang na kumapit sa Kanya. He is our refuge and help in times of trouble. Dalangin namin na abutin ka ng Diyos at lingapin. Maranasan mo nawa ang Kanyang comfort, peace, healing and strength upang mapagtagumpayan ang pagsubok na ito sa iyong marriage. We are praying for God’s intervention to heal and restore your marriage in the name of Jesus. Patuloy na panghawakan ang Kanyang Salita sa Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden upon the LORD and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous be shaken. We would love to pray for you again, please call us anytime at 8-737-0-700. You may also send us a message through our page facebook.com/CBNAsia, facebook.com/The700clubAsia or email us at [email protected] God bless and stay safe!
JM says:
Please pray for me, my husband and to our family.
Grabe na po yung sakit na nararamdaman ko kasi nahuli ko yung asawa ko na maraming nakakausap na babae with pictures pa and malalaswang usapan. Hindi ko na po kinakaya kasi bawat araw po lalo akong dinudurog. As of now magkahiwalay kami para mapagpatuloy niya kung anong gusto po niyang mangyari. Dahil sa totoo lang hindi ko po nararamdaman na mahal niya kami ng anak niya. Never humingi ng tawad ang asawa at hindi ko po nakita sa kaniya ang pagsisisi sa lahat ng ginawa niya. Nasa point na po ako na kasuhan ang aking asawa at ipatanggal sa trabaho. Sa totoo lang po hindi ko na po alam ang gagawin ko. Mahal ko po ang asawa ko pero handa po akong talikuran siya kung iyon po ang ikakasaya ng buhay niya. Marami salamat po.
cbnasiaprayercenter says:
Hello JM! Salamat sa pagbabahagi mo nito sa amin, mahirap man ang pinagdadaanan mo ngayon ay umasa ka na kasama mo ang Diyos sa lahat ng ito. Lagi mong tandaan na kung ano man ang kulang sa buhay natin. Si Lord ang magpupuno nito. Siya ang spiritual husband mo. Sabi sa Isaias 54:5 “Sapagkat ang lumalang sa iyo ay ang asawa mo, ang pangalan niya’y Yahweh na Makapangyarihan sa lahat. Ang tagapagligtas mo ay ang Banal na Diyos ng Israel, kung tawagin siya’y Diyos ng buong sanlibutan. Dalangin namin na bigyan ka Niya ng kalakasan, hilumin at lingapin ka Niya sa mga panahon na ito. Dalangin din namin na mamagitan ang Panginoon sa inyong marriage upang ma-restore ito in Jesus name. Amen. Magpakatatag ka sa Diyos, JM. Kung nais mo na patuloy ka namin masamahan sa prayers, maari kang tumawag sa aming 24/7 hotline 8-737-0-700. Maari mo din kaming i-message sa aming facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CBNAsia/ o kaya mag-email ka lang sa [email protected]. God bless you.