Are you experiencing distress and difficulty in your marriage?
Maybe you need to start showing how much you appreciate and support your spouse today. Making your partner feel loved and admired results in a stronger and more vibrant relationship.
According to researchers Allen W. Barton, Ted G. Futris, Robert B. Nielse in their study Linking financial distress to marital quality: The intermediary roles of demand/withdraw and spousal gratitude expressions, “When couples are engaging in negative conflict patterns like demand or withdrawal, expressions of gratitude and appreciation can counteract or buffer the negative effects of this type of interaction on marital stability.”
So, how do you express gratitude and appreciation? Check out these 5 actionable ways from hosts Peter and Christine Kairuz to guide you on how to be your spouse’s #1 fan:
1. Wives, admire your husband.
Show admiration by being generous with your words. You can start by saying, “I really appreciate what you do for our family.” or “I’m proud of you.” Just remember to always affirm, encourage, exhort, and comfort your husband.
2. Wives, believe in your husband.
Believing in your husband’s abilities will energize, motivate, and inspire him to do things he has never done before. When you believe in him, you are bringing out the best in him. Then, he will have the confidence to believe in himself, too.
3. Husbands, always praise your wife and spend quality time with her.
Don’t just praise her because of the big things she does for you. Praise your wife even in the little things as well. It will show how much you take time to notice her so don’t hold back in praising and appreciating your wife because they wholeheartedly serve you without complaining.
Moreover, don’t put limits on your time together when you date or go out. Instead, focus and give attention to your wife. It will make her feel special.
4. Husbands, properly introduce your wife to your friends.
Honor your wife by properly introducing her to your friends when you’re in a social gathering and they don’t know her that well. Make your wife feel welcome and at home. Don’t let her feel like she’s a stranger in a crowd.
5. Husbands, speak highly of your wife in front of others and your children.
Teach your children to praise and bless their mother by appreciating her in front of them. So that someday, when they get married, they will do the same.
Be your spouse’s biggest fan and use your words to express appreciation, admiration, and gratitude. As it says in Proverbs 18:21 NKJV, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Your words can either bring courage or disappointment, esteem or pain. Choose to be the one who gives life-giving words, so you can keep your marriage alive and growing.
Let us know what you think about these tips. Join our online discussion on The 700 Club Asia Facebook page and YouTube Channel. Don’t forget to also watch Beyond Small Talk’s next webisode this coming February 15, 2020, at 7 pm.