Not every woman becomes a mother the same way.
Actress Princess Punzalan, for instance, found joy when she took on the journey of becoming a mother through adoption.
If you are like her and you want to become a parent by adopting a child, the Beyond Small Talk guest shares tips and things you can consider before making that life-changing decision.
If you are longing for a child and considering that adoption is the best option to have one, entrust that dream to God.
Trust that He knows what’s best for you (Jeremiah 29:11) and believe that if adoption is part of His plans, He will give you wisdom and clarity.
“If you want to adopt, pray first. Not all people are called to adopt so ask God, is adoption really for you? Each child is unique. Talk about it as a couple; if you are single, pray and think thoroughly,” Princess suggests.
2. Ask yourself what you are willing to give up and how much you can give
Your readiness is the number 1 thing you must consider as you start the process of adoption, the Adoption Network says.
So decide what you really want and what you don’t. Know your limits. Be sure how much you can give in terms of time, finances, and all other resources – bearing in mind that this is a lifelong decision.
3. Be honest with yourself
The process of adoption can be long, complicated, and even emotional. That is why you must be clear and honest with yourself as to why you would want to adopt.
“Most importantly, why do you want a child?” Princess asks.
To Princess, raising a child is not something to be taken lightly, “If you want a child just for your own selfish reasons like, you don’t want to grow old alone or you want someone to take care of you, or you find it cute to have a baby in your home – let’s think carefully about it.”
4. If you already have children, make sure to consider their feelings
If you are considering adoption and you already have children, it is best to consider your children’s feelings, too.
Adoptive families take huge financial and emotional changes, that is why it is important to ensure that adoption is right for the whole family.
5. Ask for God’s guidance before making this important decision
The adoption journey is not easy, but like what many adoptive parents feel, it is also fulfilling.
So before you embark on this journey, pray. Pray that your heart will be sensitive to God’s leading and promptings. Ask for His divine guidance and acknowledge that you need His help every step of the way.
Whatever decisions He will reveal to your heart, you can rest assured that all of it is for your good and God’s glory.
“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” (Isaiah 30:21 NIV)
What are your thoughts about adoption and motherhood?