Hey there, Young People! Here are 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You are Dealing with Peer Pressure

Hey there, Young People! Here are 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You are Dealing with Peer Pressure

Do you always hear phrases like “Come on, just do it!” or “Don’t you want to fit in?”

You want to fit in, to be part of the group. That’s cool. After all, humans are designed to belong and connect with each other. But sometimes, people end up doing something they know they shouldn’t do just to fit in.

You’re not alone. Peer pressure is something that can happen to anyone. It happens to kids, even adults, especially to young adults like you.

While it is true that people are called to love their neighbors and know how to relate with them, does this mean that we should do anything just to get along with everybody?

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you deal with negative peer pressure:

 

Question 1: “What will be the outcome?”

Right now, you are open to so many options, so many things, and your decisions could lead you anywhere.

If your friends are pressuring you into doing something you won’t normally do, ask yourself: “What is going to happen if I do this? Am I ready to accept the consequences?” Count the cost, consider the risks of giving in to the pressure. They can have serious consequences not just to you, but to other people as well.

Exodus 23:2 reminds people to not follow the crowd in doing wrong.

If someone is making you do something you’re uncomfortable with, it’s okay to say no.

It’s true that taking a stand for what is right might make people unhappy with you, but that’s ok. What’s important is you do what God wants you to do.

Question 2:Am I surrounded with the right people?”

The people around you help form your character. As the old saying goes, “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.”

So, if your peers are pressuring you into doing something you don’t want to do, or something that could hurt you, perhaps it’s time to ask yourself if you are with the right people.

Ask, “Am I with the right people that will help me get to where I want to be in this life, or this relationship would only lead me to destruction?”

Likewise, the Bible was clear that even the most well-intentioned individuals can be led astray by those with bad character.

“Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.” (1 Corinthians 15:33 NASB)

That’s why it’s important that you surround yourself with positive influences – people who genuinely want the best for you and will help shape your behaviors according to what is good and pleasing to God.

Question 3: “Who am I trying to please?”

Contrary to popular belief, vulnerable people are not the only ones who can be pressured to do what the world wants over what God wants. Even those who have a healthy relationship with their families could fall to bad influences.

Why? People often fall into negative peer pressure because they think they could find happiness in social acceptance. But that kind of happiness is short-lived.

Gaining the approval of a corrupted world means giving up the true happiness that comes from God’s approval.

“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10 NIV)

 

It’s never been easy living in a world full of pressure.

But don’t worry!

God will be with you. He is the best friend and companion because He will never pressure you in doing anything that is bad for you.

May you have the courage to stand your ground. Pray, and trust that God will always empower you to resist any temptation, any peer pressure.

“Put into practice what you learned and received from me, both from my words and from my actions. And the God who gives us peace will be with you.” (Philippians 4:9 GNT)

Are you suffering from peer pressure?

The CBN Asia Prayer Center is here to listen and pray for you! Call us at 8-737-0-700 or send a message to our Facebook page.

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

So, no one told you that ‘pandemic life’ was gonna be this way.

If only all friendships could play out like the ones in sitcoms! You all live next door to each other, you can spend plenty of time together while drinking coffee and having long, intimate conversations.

Sadly, we don’t live in a sitcom. In real life, keeping friendships can require a lot of work – even more so during the pandemic.

No worries! Here are some tips that can help you deepen your relationships and keep healthy friendships during the pandemic:

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

The one where you reach out

So, your friends are not reaching out to you, and you feel that they have abandoned you?

Now is not the time to test your friends! Everyone’s going through something, and it is best to extend grace during these trying times. Also, it wouldn’t hurt if you’re the first one to reach out and ask how your friends are holding up.

Shoot them a message, initiate a video call, and work hard to try to see them – while maintaining safety measures. Be present, says The Mental Health Foundation. You would be amazed how your simple gesture can make a huge impact on your friendship.

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

The one where you ask questions and actively listen

Now that you’ve gotten in touch with your friends, what do you talk about? Break the ice! Ask questions!

Ask them how they are doing in their job or online classes, how they’re coping with the new normal, then let them fill you in. Asking friends how they feel and actively listening to their response are special moves.

Likewise, a big key to friendship is self-disclosure, says Psychology professor Tracy Gleason, so show that you can also be open and vulnerable around your friends.

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

The one where you accept changes in your friendships

One thing you might notice as you talk with your friends is that many things changed in their life, especially during the pandemic.

Pandemic or not, change is natural. Life happens. People outgrow some things they used to value while trying to cope with the new normal. They can make decisions even if they don’t align with your beliefs anymore. They can even make new friends.

Try not to focus on the differences you now have with each other. Instead, focus on your shared experiences. Choose to see these changes through the lens of acceptance and love.

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

The one where you celebrate milestones

Do you rarely get a chance to see your friend?

Then special events like birthdays, weddings, or graduations can be perfect opportunities to reconnect, catch up, and celebrate! Marking these significant life changes is important, PsychCentral affirms.

Most people get life updates about their friends from social media, but the details and the big and small talks that make up your friendships can only be shared through one-on-one interactions. It’s also a chance to try something new together like a zoom celebration or stream movies virtually.

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

The one where you pray for your friends

The pandemic is a universal experience, but it is also an individual experience. It has dramatically affected everyone – so everyone could use some encouragement – including your friends.

Pray for and with your friend. Ask them if they have prayer requests, and actually pray for them then and there. Allow God to comfort, protect, and direct your friends’ paths.

Lastly, ask God to strengthen your friendship and keep it healthy, as both of you dwell in His constant love.

“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other… Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.” (Romans 12:10-12 NLT)

The One with the Pandemic Friends: 5 Tips to Keep Healthy Friendships Right Now!

Share God’s comfort and healing to your friends!

Let them know that there is hope in Jesus by encouraging them to stream JC Ronato’s newest single, Maghihilom. Out now on SpotifyApple Music, and YouTube! Follow Reverb Worship PH on FacebookInstagram, and YouTube for more updates.

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